Many of us are frustrated with the status quo, yet feel powerless to change things—whether about our personal work life, or more global issues of politics, gender equality, or climate change.
When you are faced with a situation that you do not like, what is your normal reaction?
Most people mainly become irritated, complain to the source, or tell others about what is wrong. I do it, too, sometimes. What I am continually reminded of though when I do these is how little affect they have on making the situation better.
I have decided to challenge myself over the next month whenever I catch myself complaining to do one of three things.
New perspective: step back and try to see the situation in a new light that will change my perspective of it as a problem.
Accept it or reject it: Recognise this is a situation and i can choose to accept it for what it is without emotional distortion, or remove myself from it.
Solutions: at least three things I can do to improve the situation or myself
BONUS STEP: just do it! Take control and take action on the opportunity to improve the situation or myself.
By doing these three things you will be taking back the power over frustrating situations rather than allowing yourself to feel at the affect of the outer world. Let’s face it, we all encounter things in our daily life that are not worth the energy we give them when we get upset.
For those few things in your life that need your attention, you will now be taking concrete actions to improve them, opening the door to new possibilities.
When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness. Eckhart Tolle – Author
Once you are in the habit of seeing life through this type of lens you will make the world a better place for you and everyone around you.
Take back the control. Look for solutions. Be creative. Think BIG!